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DECENT ENGAGEMENT PROPOSAL

THIS POST ORIGINALLY FEATURED IN THE NEW ZEALAND WOMANS WEEKLY.

If a man proposes to a woman and is turned down, can he get his money back on the ring from the jeweller he bought it from?  Would it be reasonable for jewellers to allow the man to take the ring away and, if the proposal was not accepted, be able to simply return it to the shop.

Oh dear.  I imagine some jewellers with a soft heart might take a ring back if it were a “shelf item”, but not one created or altered specifically for the customer.  But certainly they’d be under no obligation to do so – nor should they be.  As for allowing rings out of the shop on the basis of “no ‘yes’ no deal”, I’d be surprised if you found any jeweller prepared to play that game. 

But there is an answer.  You can now buy “Would you marry me?”(sic) rings – simple bands with those words engraved on the side.  If the answer’s no, you haven’t lost too much money.  If the answer’s yes, you keep the band as a memento but go back to the jeweller together to select or create a more elaborate engagement ring.  This has the added advantage of allowing the man to spring a surprise proposal without having to worry of he’s bought a ring his fiancée-to-be will like. 

It’s brilliant.  Dan Carter did.  Say no more.

Source: NZ Woman's Weekly Consumer Section – Kevin Milne